Ok, it’s August. Do you feel like your kids think that they live in a hotel?
Has the couch potato act gotten a little stale?
Maybe your son or daughter had a job at the beginning of the summer, but it didn’t last long, and now they don’t know what to do next. Or maybe there was no job, and they have been living the free life, all summer!
When you try to talk with them about their future and what they plan to do and WHEN it starts a fight, crying, or maybe worse, they shut down. A code word for that… WHATEVER!!!!
Maybe they will be going away to college in the fall and want to live in an apartment, but you worry they might not have the skills necessary to make it in the “real world” but your not sure what to say.
The first part of dealing with a problem is recognizing that you have one! I know this sounds all “Counselor like” but what can you expect when you read Counseling blog!:) But truthfully, does your adult child realize this is a problem? Do you? If your son or daughter is over 20 and not even thinking about what life would be like living out of their parent’s house, there probably is something going on, And don’t worry mom and dad, it most likely isn’t something you did wrong.
I see many young adults in my White Bear Lake clinic Emerging Adult Counseling, which is in that “in-between” stage between adolescence and adulthood.
We are seeing more and more of that in our young adults today taking longer to finish college, have a stable relationship and moving out of their parent’s home, the typical markers of adulthood for past generations. There seems to be a higher rate of mental health difficulties, and for the first time, we are seeing more young adults with anxiety than those with depression. Although many experience both conditions.
With these disorders, you can account for at least some of the lack of motivation and the fighting when confronted with the questions about not becoming what we have traditionally thought of as adulthood.
Some theorists have coined the term “emerging Adulthood to describe this phenomenon. (See https://emergingadultcounselingtc.com/emerging-adulthood/ for more insight on Emerging Adult Counseling.
While you’re there, check out the resources available by Emerging Adult Counseling designed to support emerging adults who are in the ‘in-between stage”. These emerging adults want to move on but sometimes talking to their parents, makes it more difficult. They think, “how can I become an adult if I keep going to my parents? Sometimes hearing that they are not alone and that there is help available, can give them the courage to reach out and ask for help.
Some of the resources Emerging Adult Counseling offers Emerging Adults, and their parents include:
Individual counseling starts with careful assessment of Emerging challenges, as well as mental health assessment. Not every young adult having trouble moving into adult responsibilities has mental health problems, but some do, so we assess for it. We also take into account any physical or learning disabilities that may impact development into adulthood.
We design customized programs for each client to meet his or her potential.
To help the emerging adult realize they are not the only ones dealing with the challenge of moving into adulthood. We also offer Support Groups for Emerging Adults and a specific group for those experiencing mental health disorders or disabilities. These are ongoing groups for support and psychoeducation.
This Fall We are also offering an Adulting 101 non-credit course that will look at topics such as Cooking for 1, Career and Job Search Skills.
We look at training and educational options
and helping them with the application process
We also Health and Wellness Topics (including creating their emergency kit. And much more! Visit the Adulting 101 Course page at EmergingAdultCounselingTC.com/Adulting 101.
If you or your son or daughter is interested in any of our offerings we are offering a FREE 30-minute consultation to see if what we offer is a good fit.
As I tell the Emerging Adults I work with, “Help is Available, You need to ask!
Parent Consultations are also available.
Reach out at Sue.Smith@EmergingAdultCounselingTC.com or by phone at 651-401-3218.